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The Journey to change

   For a lot of people, the word change can be scary or amazing. There really is no middle ground with this concept just extreme ends. Regardless of whether you find change amazing or scary, we can all agree that change takes dedication and time which can often make the whole process difficult and intimidating. 

What is change?
   According to google's dictionary, change is defined as the idea to make or become different. But what change really is, is the final chapter to a story, the trigger to a new beginning. The moment you declare change that very moment itself becomes part of the final chapter.

Why are we struggling with change?
  A lot of us think that if things were different, then our circumstances would be better. “Maybe, if I was sterner, they would listen to me”. The mistake a lot of us make when embarking on a journey of change is that we go straight to the belly of the beast as supposed to take the first few rides. When talking about things we want to change we may make a list i.e, "I'm no longer going to be a jealous person". Half the time it doesn't work because we approach change with such a basic mindset. We lack the patience and perseverance to see it through. We want immediate results and refuse to trust the process. We can’t just say I'm no longer going to be a jealous person and poof it happens. That's not how it works. Change requires action and the mistake we are making and the reason why some of us fall off our journey is that we try and change ourselves instead of our actions. Which from my experience is almost next to impossible. You can’t change who you are but you can change what you do and how you approach certain situations, which in turn changes your attitude. 

What causes change?
  Let’s face it, 90 percent of us were dissatisfied with something or someone in our lives and decided change is necessary. Often it takes extraordinary events (good or bad) for the idea of change to occur. Nobody wakes up and decides to shake their life up with no absolute reason. The fact is humans are creatures of habit. There is a safety that is associated with habits and nobody ever plans on messing that up unless necessary. After all, “if it ain't broke, don’t fix it”. 

Why change can be scary or amazing.
   There is only one reason why change can be scary or amazing and that reason is the idea of the unknown. The unknown can be terrifying or exciting depending on the perspective. Again we are creatures of habit and the land of the unknown can be either a “No man land” or “Undiscovered land”. 

How do we enable change in our lives?
   It's a long process that requires a lot of perseverance. However, it begins with one complicated step which is honesty. We have to be honest with ourselves if we want to change and that can sometimes mean admitting to ourselves things we suspected but never wanted to hear.  We also have to be willing to hear out other people because sometimes people can make valid points. Constructive criticism is very possible. It is only when we expose ourselves to the ugly truth that we can truly begin the journey and even make it to the end of the road. 

"To improve is to change, to be perfect is to change often."- Winston Churchill

Have there been any changes you have tried to make that have gone either north or south? Please let us know in the comments and have a wonderful day - Aurenda.

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